Enmusubi is not just about love

Izumo Taisha explains 'enmusubi' not only as a wish for romantic connections, but as a wish for various kinds of happiness in life. Whether you're wishing for a partner or for companions who support you, or for meeting someone in a workplace, this becomes a chance to reflect on your own desires. Take a moment now to consider: what kind of connection am I currently seeking?

From a list of conditions, envision the desired relationship scene

If you list your ideal partner based only on conditions, you risk losing sight of what kind of daily life you truly want. Try writing down three or so everyday scenes: one where you can talk freely when tired, one where you can listen even when opinions differ, and one where your own time is respected. When you consider not just what you want from your partner, but also how you’d like to engage with them, your wish begins to take shape as a real relationship.

Visiting should follow the local customs and procedures

If you're making a prayer for enmusubi, be sure to check the official guidelines of the specific shrine or temple you're visiting for the proper way to pray. In some cases, special requests may require advance registration. Never assume that all shrines follow the same procedures—always respect the local practices. Instead of rushing to find a quick way to fulfill your wish, take time to reflect calmly on your own feelings and intentions.

After your wish, consider what you can offer in return

If you're hoping for a new connection, visit places that interest you. If you value your current relationship, take time to express gratitude or share your hopes. Connecting with others and respecting their intentions can go hand in hand. Rather than insisting on a specific response, gradually expand the range of relationships where you feel comfortable and at ease.

A THOUGHT TO KEEP

Turn your wish for connection into small, everyday interactions.

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I want to clarify the kind of relationship I value most, and what I can do on my own to support it.

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